As you have guessed this is Kim – (Amy’s Boyfriend for the past couple of years, and recent Husband), writing in place of Amy with none of the carefully crafted English or humour.
A lot has happened of late and so I thought I would take this opportunity to fill in some of the gaps that have opened up over the past few weeks and months.
The panic over the wedding dress continued up until a visit to Monsoon with Mum. There was a little panic around dressings and making sure that there were no leaks as they were being tried on. The panic was heightened by the sales assistant popping her head round the curtain every now and then asking whether everything was OK and demanding twirls.
However Amy found the right dress, which looked fantastic. The rest of the wedding preparation centred around ensuring that we had discrete and adequate dressings to ensure that there was no leakage on the dress on the day. Secondarily, waterproofing the dress to ensure that if there was any leakage so that the dress would remain in pristine condition. As far as finding discrete dressings, thanks to Shane, I did find a number of cohesive bandages, some army surplus bandages which were marketed as absorbing loads, they had an excellent green and brown camouflage pattern but did not match the ivory colour scheme!
First Field Dressing
The district nurses (Lynne, Helen, Julie and far too many others to mention) also did a fantastic job of finding dressings that were colour coordinated and did the right thing for the flight to Colombo, Sri Lanka.
On the night prior to our departure we were up until the early hours of the morning packing and repacking bags, having already offloaded a number of dressing and saline solutions to family to carry for us.
We were up early and loaded into the taxi, having grabbed some brekkie and made a last minute dash to the doctors to grab a new prescription for some medication we had run out of. As it was so early the pharmacy was not open, and we relied on Lynne (the district nurse) to sweet talk and cajole the pharmacy staff to provide the required medication. Unfortunately after all this we had the wrong medication so we went through the process again and once more Lynne battled into the Doctors for a new script and then into the Pharmacy for some new medication. Lynne really was a great help, with Helen calming the nerves as without it the holiday would have been very painful, with no breakthrough medication.
We got to Heathrow in good time, having snoozed most of the way, whilst I finalised some work issues that had crept up overnight.
On getting to the check-in desk Amy reached for her glasses, which we later realised we had left on the bedside cabinet. Despite this we made it through passport control without any real issues, though we had two pieces of hand luggage each and only three arms it was a little fraught at times.
The dressings were a little wet at this stage and as we had a 10 hour flight ahead of us we decided to have a quick change, which was a novel affair in an airport disabled loo. Thinking that there was not much space, but realising that there was far more space than there would be on the airplane, when we needed to change dressings. The district nurses had prepped us well and some earlier planning to create individual packages of gauzes, pads and saline into bags served us well. Needless to say the change on the airplane also went well though far more confined, and squeezing two into a aircraft loo at the best of times is difficult, let alone to change dressings.
So we arrived in Sri Lanka refreshed (lol) @ 6 in the morning expecting to see our Kuoni representative whisk us away in the planned style and luxury that we were expecting. Unfortunately we got blank stares and were asked for copies of invoices – whilst we had to wait for 30 minutes for our Kuoni rep to organise a taxi – which we had to pay for and subsequently get reimbursed.
The journey there was a small culture shock with varied driving practices, we managed to time the drive with Colombo’s rush hour so it was very stop and start. Once we got out of the city and onto the road South we faced a new game of overtaking drivers playing chicken with each other as they honked their horns and hurtled towards each other, missing each other each and every time thankfully. There was no malice or untoward aggression – just a different way of driving, and strangely enough not many cars had dents or dings. But I guess you only have to get it wrong once to have a spectacular accident.
After a four hour air conditioned transfer we got to the hotel and enjoyed iced tea as we sat on the veranda and looked out over the Indian Ocean. The temperature was in the mid thirties & high humidity.
We spent the next few days in an Eco Lodge up river from the Hotel, which was situated in a Mangrove Swamp, which brought with it many excellent benefits, notably the wildlife as we were in a secluded spot with a balcony in the treetops, monkeys were on eye level as were many colourful birds – our favourite – the fly catcher will get posted shortly.
another king fisher
Happy times
Balcony
Unfortunately Amy struggled to take photos of the wildlife as she was minus her glasses and often managed to spot the wild life just prior to its departure, which led to some frustrations. With this in mind and after a little trip in low light we had an epiphany over dinner and I am still not sure why it did not occur earlier. But we did two things, firstly we asked our neighbour to Fedex her glasses over, as everyone was either travelling or about to travel and secondly in the event that these were going to get stuck in customs we decided to get a pair made up in Sri Lanka to ease the situation. In hindsight why we did not do this sooner I do not know – but we got to the optician and Amy was back to seeing the world which helped immeasurably.
We did an evening river boat ride to see the local flora and birdlife and were treated to an exquisite view of some spectacular birds and local sights.
Some of the downsides of the eco lodge were mosquitoes and sharing your living space with lots of little noo-noo’s i.e. bugs, critters and the like. Though I guess you need these to feed the ecosystem – but when being eaten by them is part of that ecosystem it does lose some of its shiny appeal.
Amy unfortunately also started to develop a tender spot on her breast, which was sore to the touch, and therefore to be avoided at all costs.
Having moved to the hotel we spent some time going over the wedding plans, flowers, decorations and of course the Sari. We confirmed the location on the beach after a brief tour of the various options and then had Amy measured for a Sari. Thereafter we truly relaxed and enjoyed the Spa, the heat and the food on offer.
Chillin in Sri Lanka
We were joined by the family and then by our best man Gerald after they had also experienced a number of uneventful, but white knuckle, journeys down to Galle (pronounced Gaul); strangely enough none of these transfers was missed after a rant to the Kuoni local agent about our own experiences at the airport.
The Wedding Day (Thursday the 11th Feb 2010) came around far faster than I think we expected, more than likely due to the relaxed nature of the holiday.
Relax 2
Zen
On the morning of the wedding we had a photographer who came around and took a number of staged photos, demanding lots of cheesy grins and the like, though he did develop an excellent rapport and his photos do look stunning – I will post these as soon as they arrive.
The Sari which we had made out there worked a treat and looked fantastic though did manage to come undone relatively early and so needed a little redressing. This meant that the photographer was left with me as a subject for a brief while and so I have a large series number of photos of me looking lost and forlorn waiting for Amy.
We did a brief photo shoot at Galle Fort and took some nice shots near the top of the fort, promptly coming out of the sunshine and back to the hotel to recuperate prior to the afternoon’s main event.
We prepped Amy well and the dressings were changed prior to getting into the Wedding dress with hair and makeup being redone. Amy’s folks came to give her a hand with the final preparations whilst I went upstairs to spend some time with Gerald getting ready in the ‘Indiana Jones’ outfits with associated hats.
Where the photographer had great rapport the videographer had absolutely none, though did do a great job of capturing some of the key moments and was fairly unobtrusive – which I guess is what we wanted really.
In getting to the ceremony Gerald my best man and I were escorted to the beach by some Kandyan traditional dancers and drummers.
Gerald did a great job of shaking his tush to the beat which was captured on the video. The dancers then left us on the beach with our guests and an elephant as they left to escort Amy and Martin down to the beach.
Elephant is going to Jump any time now
The Poruwa (read podium) was decorated with lovely flowers which people must have been up all night making.
The Blessing
The ceremony was Buddhist and was absolutely lovely, which incorporated the tying of fingers together, to some chanting; handing out bettle leaves to relatives (which was accompanied by some light confusion) and the lighting of a traditional oil lamp. This was followed by some lovely singing by a choir of local schoolgirls.
After the ceremony we spent some time with the registrar on the beach and undertook the legal formalities. This was finished with Gerald guiding us through an impromptu mazeltov.
mazeltov
This left us to enjoy some cake and champagne – prior to getting onto the elephant which was a rather large accomplishment in and of itself. Needless to say the elephant ride was the crowning moment of the day – a rather bony ride but what the trip to Sri Lanka was all about really.
ride the elephant
We managed to get both Katie and Gerald and then Tara and Melissa onto the elephant which was great.
We had a few more staged photographs followed by a dressing change and getting into the Sari prior to the evenings dinner and fireworks. Tara my little sister was not keen on spending too much time with us that evening – whether due to the desire to watch Futurama or whether she had just been on best behaviour for too long that day.
However she came around a little brighter after being away from the table for a while.
Around 9pm we had some excellent fireworks, just before a light spattering of rain – so we headed inside to complete dinner which was punctuated with some excellent speeches from Martin, myself, Amy and Gerald with a cameo appearance from my sister (who did a great job).
After a delicious dessert we ended a lovely day and celebration and headed back to the room.
On Friday, we headed over to Unawatuna Beach with Gerald to spend some quality time with Martin, Margaret and Katie – after a brief tour round the cabana we headed out to the beach, stopping off at a few curio shops with a view to coming back later to haggle.
Having arrived at what I can only describe as a fantastic beach that the Reeces had been enjoying all holiday we found a quiet spot in shade. We took of t-shirts and jumped into the sea to fling a Frisbee around for a short while catching some sun, whilst Amy and Margaret snoozed and looked on.
The beach
Unbeknownst to me I had left my US Dollars in my pocket which was not terribly secure, and following the frisbee action decided to go for a quick swim out to the reef. Swimming along about 20-30 meters out, I saw what I thought was money on the sea floor and went down for a look. Think how I exclaimed at my lucky find, and then swore at myself as I patted my pockets down to realise that MY US Dollars were now being swept away by the current. In a single minded fashion I ducked under a number of times gathering more and more sodden notes before Gerald came over and grabbed grab my leg, as I surfaced I thrust a wedge of notes into his hands, gave a brief explanation and started ducking under again.
Needless to say I think we managed to capture most all of the money and it was well laundered. Margaret and Katie did a great job of surreptitiously drying and counting the notes as they came out of the water, without attracting the attention of the local hawkers who would have loved to have provided some help.
With the panic over we relaxed on the beach with a beer and managed to capture a couple of great shots. And we did add liquidation to the economy with some sarong purchases and linen shirts. On the way back to the cabana we stopped off at a few shops to do some hard bartering for some paintings. I thought I was quite a good barterer, but Mr Gerald put me to shame and when we double teamed – crickey a good price was had.
We had previously sent a few text messages to Mr B to let him know the situation re: the wound / infection and the state of confusion. Mr B passed on some red flags to watch out for and otherwise let us know that we should be OK to continue the holiday.
Saturday saw the photos from the photographer arrive and copies of the marriage certificate. Amy by this point had started to feel drowsier, tired and a little detached. We had an early dinner and said goodbye to Martin, Margaret and Katie who were departing for the UK. We then headed back to the room to get ready for bed and I then continued to pack up our things till the early hours of the morning.
On Sunday morning the detachment Amy had experienced on Saturday was far more prevalent and she was very drowsy. We managed to get out of the room and get the bags to the taxi that was doing the transfer to Yala (national park).
Whilst we were having breakfast I decided to speed things up by going to pay the bill downstairs. When I came back to the restaurant I found Amy getting some bread rolls sliced by a confused chef for toasting. I got Amy to sit down and went back to get some bread on to toast. Whilst going for coffee / juice I noticed Amy getting up to walk out, I intercepted her on the way to the door and she explained that the painful swelling on her left breast had ‘popped’ pointing to the leak.
We nipped into the ladies loo and got Amy settled whilst I ran downstairs to get the dressing kit we had ready for the journey. We cleaned up and took stock of how to dress the new wound. Needless to say we had a frank conversation about heading onwards to Yala vs. heading home. My take was firmly that there was little option but to head home, whilst Amy was very keen to see the leopards that Yala is well known for.
I made the call to the airline and got our flights rebooked for the next available slot – the time then was approximately Sunday 9am. and the flight was due Monday morning 3am.
The hotel was great and put us up in a room for the day as we had the Yala taxi re-booked for an 8pm ride to the airport.
We got to the airport in good time, so we were there around midnight and then had to get through the airport which we managed to do thanks to a porter. Amy had slept most of the way there and was extremely drowsy – though we managed to get through passport control and onto the plane without too many issues.
Amy again slept the vast majority of the way back and was more and more difficult to rouse, to drink, or eat. When she did come around she was confused about where she was and what was happening. Gerald was a star throughout as he happened to travelling on the same flight, though was a little behind us as his taxi had a puncture. However he was able to help with cases and the like. We arrived back in the UK on Monday morning at 10am and luckily were met by my Mom and Tara and the Taxi driver who was there to collect us. Though we were keen stay and chat, as Amy was still very snoozy and quite confused we made a bee line straight for home. On getting home we ate some lunch, changed dressings with a super tired Amy, and then popped Amy into bed. I let Mr B know that we would be there as soon as there was space, which thankfully was Tuesday. Amy then slept until Tuesday morning having spent most of the previous 50 hours largely asleep.
We made our way to Cheltenham and got Amy into the hospital. The tissue viability Nurses came and had a look at the wound under her arm and made some suggestions on dressings. The following few days were quite tense with Amy getting intravenous antibiotics and lots of saline solution. Due to the confusion Amy was experiencing most of the medication was switched to a liquid form which was easier to take, when drowsy.
Martin, Margaret and Katie joined me to keep Amy comfortable during this time. The blood tests that were taken showed abnormally high level of calcium in the blood, due to the cancer leaching the calcium out of the bones. High levels of calcium are known to cause confusion. This was neutralised over a period of 4-5 days with Amy becoming more lucid throughout, though still not managing to hold long conversations and still really only a shadow of her former self.
On the back of Amy’s improvement Mr B removed the implant to increase Amy’s chances of beating the infection. A few days later (Friday 26th) Amy was moved to the Prospect Hospice in Wroughton where she spent the next week. Amy found the move from Cheltenham to Wroughton tough and was very tired by the experience. Initially Amy’s medication was reduced slightly, to hopefully increase her lucidity but still manage her pain. This perhaps seemed to have a positive impact though also created a peak and trough issue with sedatives and pain killers.
Around Tuesday evening / Wednesday morning Amy started to regress – becoming more confused and agitated. The peaks and troughs in the medication became more pronounced the distress and agitation when not sedated were more marked and intense and all recognition when conscious was lost.
Amy passed away in the early hours of March the 6th 2010 aged 34, she was an inspiration to many, with a positive outlook and a beautiful spirit. Definitely loved by all, she will be missed dearly by her parents Martin and Margaret, her sister Katie and, of course, by myself – Kim.
Those of you who have followed this blog will know of Amy’s courage, determination and positive attitude. Her wedding in Sri Lanka was a truly wonderful day which will live on for all those that were there. It was, unfortunately her last ‘Hurrah’, but what a good one !
Hurrah